There have been several cases when I heard elders say that it is not good to wear pearls while single. They say it is a ground to not getting married. Seriously, is there a truth in it?

I noticed Asian people are very much indulged in mythology and other historical significance. Though I believe that each country has their own myth stories to tell. And one of their myths is the wearing of pearl while single.

I fear that if this myth was ever proven, I bet the pearl jeweller may have lost a reasonable number of customers. I believe women, especially singles would love to accessorize and pearl would be one of their many choices.

Sometimes, it is not bad to take into consideration myths as a matter of precaution. But the certainty of it is not a hundred percent accurate. Could we now consider pearl as one of the reasons why most women are still single? Nah, I don’t think so. I believe that each single women out there have their own personal reasons for not being married yet.

I think pearl myth is only used as an escape to truth, a piece to blame why some women are still single. I love pearls. We should not depend our life on mythologies. Let us stand on our faith because life after all is beautiful.

All of us maybe experienced heartache and some may even say they will going to die after the breakup. I even witnessed some people who ruined thier life after the recent breakups. They act as if they also lost all the things they have. That they were sentenced to death.

I don’t condemn those who act these way. Instead I even pity them. These type of people needs the help of their friends and family members to get over the breakups. I know that it was really painful but we must accept that it was already the end for that relationship.

I myself even gone through with these break ups but I tried to be strong. I don’t want to suffer nor remain in pain for so long. It is because that after the breakup there is only two things we must also do. First, cry. Second, move on.

It’s the only way we can able to find someone better. Someone who deserves our love and someone who is worth to love.

Nowadays, most women were focus on their career. Some of them were still single in their late 20’s. They didn’t bother because what important to them is to prepare for their future. These are the women nowadays. More mature, practical and realistic.

But what happen if they turn thirty years old? Did they panic? Yes, it’s like missing their ride of getting married. Because at the age of 29, they don’t have any partner.Some of them didn’t experience it since birth. Why? It’s their choice to be alone to focus more on their career.But now, they are thinking hardly on how to get a partner.

There’s also a belief that women who are at their 30’s or ’til 35 will have a difficulty in their pregnancy. I think that would be the one reason why they are in a hurry.The other thing is to feel the satisfaction of having complete. Since that they already get what they want in their career, they also now ready to have a family.But the problem is, they want to get married but they still don’t have a groom.

But be careful in choosing one.Don’t be affected by rushing! Because you will not have much time to choose the right one. It’s better to be carefull now than regret for the rest of your life. Goodluck!

i was quite annoyed with my cousin who seems to become a bit of a drama queen since they’ve broken up. sometimes too i pity for being so attached with her boyfriend of almost 6 years. we had a very different teenage life so i think we got different views on love and relationship as adults.

while i was a late bloomer-one who never had interest in guys during my high school and college years, my cousin had quiet a number of boyfriends even in high school, when she met brian in her freshemen year in college, they soon became a couple and stayed on until recently. i think they were both very young, spoiled and immature to have a growing relationship. as i’ve observed, they fight like kids, and swear at each other frequently. a kind of relationship that’s unhealthy. my cousin also did not experience having guy friends around, or going out with a bunch of friends. she doesnt hang out with her bf’s friend and vice versa. their breakup really affected my cousin, not emotionally but i think her lost was something of a frequent companion rather than a partner. in their years together, their relationship a shackling one. not allowing each other to grow and mature with each other but rather a relationship that tries to control one. now with their break up, my cousin is always on the look out for someone to fill-in the space that her ex-bf once occupied. yet i always suggest to her that she should try to enjoy the things she missed out first because of her last relationship before she thinks of entering a new one.

my younger years may not have been filled with colorful love stories yet i had a bunch of friends both girls and guys that i always hang out with. with a group of very protective male buddies, i haven’t really thought of losing out coz i don’t have a bf. I felt really lucky to have them then and still i have them now. though i have a baby now, and even if my son doesnt have a father to call, i know these guys will always be there for us. and even if i am a single mom, i can do things that singles do-enjoy life, do the things i love.. without needing anyone’s permission and without anyone controlling or dictating on my actions.

Being single is the most exciting part of life. Single means you don’t have any commitment to other person rather than to your friends.

Being single can make you do anything you want and go any place you want. No person will ever tell you “No, don’t do this” nor “don’t do that”. No one will ever tell you, “you can’t go” or you can go”. In short no one will ever dictate any actions you want to do. You are your own boss and you will decide alone. You don’t have to ask permission nor opinion of anybody aside from yourself.

Thoughbeing a single also have some flaws. When all your friends have dates on thier special someone and you want to go out with them you can’t ask them so. You may even find yourself all alone. It was sad though but for some they handle the situation well. I even find it too miserable when I experienced it. Specially when I saw them happy with thier own partners or family. Somehow you will feel the emptiness inside. That must be part of being single.

Having a single life is really a choice. You are the one who is about to decide just be sure your decision will make you happy in your entire life.

Pretty Mir of Woulda Could Shoulda talks about the TV show Bridezillas.

Our first bride explains that she IS a princess and she will be treated as such. Her wedding day is ALL ABOUT HER and it’s her way or the highway.

“Highway, please!” said Kira.

“How do you suppose they GET these women, I mean find them, and then get their consent to be taped? I mean, do you think they tell them that they’re from a show called BRIDEZILLAS or do they say they’re making a documentary about weddings or what?” I asked her.

“I think,” said Kira, holding up a finger for emphasis, and putting on a very serious face indeed, “That they call them up and tell them that they are making a show about PRETTY PRETTY PRINCESSES and that they heard that SHE was the PRETTIEST PRINCESS OF THEM ALL. And then it goes from there.”

Read the rest here. You won’t regret it!

Here’s something we can all relate to, expat or no.

There is much more of an expat community here in Beijing than there was in Yantai, but I find myself in a weird no-man’s-land between looking for the best meet-market bar with the cheapest beer, and looking for the best preschool. I suppose I’d reach this stage of life anywhere, but China brings this, like everything else, into sharper focus.

Via Simpson’s Paradox

I am not a that type of person who instantly falls in love. Actually, I am scared of the idea of being too in love with somebody. Maybe the couples I know just do not really impress me so I had a hard time imagining myself back then that love could really last for long.

I don’t believe in love at first sight.
I believe it is better for two persons to get to know each other before saying that you’re already in love.
I’m not comfortable with the idea of love at first sight, because I have to know his character first.
I also believe that love needs time to grow and develop.
Back then I thought that if I would fall in love, it would have to be with someone who will impress me. And that really happened 2 years ago. We all have this idea of what our ideal guy would be but when that moment when you finally fall in love, all those ideals do no not really matter anymore.

But sadly, the relationship did not work out for a lot of reasons. I still miss him but now I know it’s time to move on. It’s time to finally find ourselves again without holding on to our past.

Ever since my last relationship, I always thought that love should have been easy. But then I’m wrong. Most of the time, love is not even enough to make someone stay. That’s what I learned from all our arguments and misunderstandings. You may not know it but more often than not, the person that we hurt the most is the one we love the most. It hurts not to even notice that until that person has already left. I really want him to stay for me, for our relationship but I know that it would be the most selfish thing to do. I’d rather let him live his life without me now.

Single is hassle-free. There are so many people out there who are single. The way I see the trend, either people get married early or late. Somewhere in between, these people are more focused on their careers.

When men and women are being asked why they are single, they come up with reasons as:

1) No commitments - They prefer a world of their own without someone’s manipulation.

2) No responsibilities and obligations - They enjoy life without pressure. They love to think more of themselves more than others.

3) Fear of separation - Many are afraid to face complicated problems such as accidental pregnancies for women, fear to be physically abused, etc.

4) Nightlife - They love nightlife. People who are very single stay in a crowd where they can freely mingle without restrictions.

5) Fear of having a family - Many people are afraid to start a family because they might fail as good examples to their future children.

6) Boundaries and judgment - Many single people are egoistic. They resist to be judged and corrected. They don’t want to have limits.

7) Fear of change - People find it difficult to adapt to changes.

Lots of reasons to come up. But the decision still lies on the person. He has all the right to whichever makes him happy.

I have this friend who is still single at this moment, single as in no boyfriend, no suitor. She’s the only single in our group. Let’s call her Shawie. Shawie is not ugly besides she has a nice body, sexy indeed. But until now were very curious why she still hasn’t a boyfriend. Her last boyfriend is when we are still in college, that’s approximately a decade. When our friend first got married, she became the bridesmaid including us. But when it’s my turn to get married, she’s the only one in our group who remain single and became also the bridesmaid.
Right now she is working in a international company and I presumed that there are guys out there who is cute and can easily get along with. I once went to her office and I saw some handsome guys. I ask my friend if she like some one in her office mates but she said no. I told her what’s the problem, she only said she don’t like the guys in her office. I don’t want to elaborate more because she might get offended.
Maybe she’s still looking for his Mr. Right and she don’t want to push her self to be committed to someone he doesn’t like. It’s her choice and hopefully maybe sometime, someone will make her heart fall in love.