I got stood up today.

It’s a horrible way to have to start a post, but there’s little other way to describe it. To put things bluntly, she told me she’d have a few hours free today, she’d let me know where and when we could get together, and long story short - I didn’t hear from her today.

Maybe it was a signal in the sense that she wouldn’t divulge her phone number so that I could contact her in some way other than online. I certainly gave her my number, as I was clearly interested in getting together with her. I waited patiently at home by the two means she could use to contact me - the phone and the computer - and was mildly disappointed to get no word from her. She specifically TOLD me that she would let me know the information and we’d be getting together, and THAT’S the part that offends me.

Women saying they’ll do something - then fail to do it.

It’s a phone call. It’s a text message. It’s something to let a person who’s waiting to hear from you know what’s going on and whether or not to expect plans. It’s saying you’ll do something and then doing it. It’s about honesty and it’s about caring for the other person.

The only thing that possibly hurts more than being stood up for a date… is the wait until you get to hear what the excuse is. If there even is one.

Just because you’re willing to show compassion and faith and trust…

…doesn’t mean you’ll be getting it back.

Aaron Samuels wrote this on May 5th, 2005 and filed it under Brutal Breakups, Internet Dating, Single Life |