With the many venues for meeting people you have to wonder why so many dates fail. Why are there so many people still single, yet the search never ceases? There are numerous online dating sites, local clubs and even the grocery store and friends to help you meet others.

In my opinion, expectations are so high and an ideal image is created before the “getting to know each other” stage is given a fair chance. One look to see the person is an inch shorter than expected or a few pounds heavier and they are tossed away. We all have preferences, but how can we get to know the core of a person with one look? Are people truly interested in the core or simply the “packaging”? Or, maybe there are other reasons to keep tossing dates aside.

Maybe some sabotage dates consciously or unconsciously. Maybe they aren’t ready for a long-term relationship and find a reason not to like anyone they meet. They step out of their comfort zone enough to go on a date, but the fear sets in when they think in terms of a relationship.

There’s also the possible fear of rejection. No one likes to be rejected and rejecting someone before you are rejected often feels more comfortable.

It takes knowing what you want to get what you want, but you have to get real with yourself. You have to fully understand where you are in life, what you are ready for, what you have to offer another and what you want in return. Maybe the problem isn’t with your dates, but issues you need to address within yourself.

Kathy wrote this on December 21st, 2007 and filed it under Single Life |