Being single opens you up to many opportunities and experiences. If you were in a relationship and are now single, you may get a sudden urge to test your freedom. For some, this may mean making impulsive or clouded decisions.

That free spirit hits you one night. You get dressed up in your finest attire and hit the clubs. You’re feeling on top of the world and the alcohol enhances those feelings even more. You end up at the home of the hottie you danced with and have a one-night stand. Your intentions were to have fun and let loose, but not THIS loose!

One-night stands have consequences. They serve little purpose other than instant gratification, an ego boost or a test to freedom. The gratification rarely lasts long because sharing such an intimate part of yourself with a stranger usually leaves an empty feeling, especially after the alcohol wears off. You may feel used and wonder why this charming stranger never tries to contact you again.

Pregnancy, abortions, STD’s, a sense of feeling used and empty can result from a one-night stand. No matter how charming this stranger is, they are a stranger. They could be someone’s husband or wife and lied about their status or they could be on the wanted poster at the post office. Some people deliberately go after one-night stands and some fall into them as they consume alcohol.

Chances are, the stranger who has chosen you to have a one-night stand with, didn’t choose you because you are special, but because you are all too willing to give them what they are seeking. They may see you as vulnerable or so wasted, they take advantage. After the excitement wears off, they may wonder how many one-night stands you have and you may wonder the same about them.

If you find yourself involved in one-night stands, ask yourself “why”. Are you consuming too much alcohol and your judgment is clouded? Do you feel the need to be validated and that causes you to make impulsive decisions? Dig deep into the reasons so you are more able to make decisions that will affect your life positively. In a fantasy, one-night stands may be exciting, but in reality, they can be a nightmare!

Kathy wrote this on January 24th, 2008 and filed it under Bar Hopping, Clubbing, Hitting the Sauce, Single Life |