Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. If you’re single, you may dread hearing all the couples talk about their romantic plans. You may be tempted to fire a shot through the tv if you see one more commercial about getting that “special someone” a diamond or flowers. In every aisle of the stores, you’re seeing that Cupid guy pointing his arrow and it’s going straight through your heart, but not in the way he intends. It’s a reminder you are single and don’t have that “special someone” to share this event with.

Valentine’s Day is what you make of it. If you find yourself feeling “lesser” because you are single on Valentine’s Day, you may be defining yourself by relationship status. Understand your worth isn’t based on “who” you are with, but who you are.

If not having a “date” is preventing you from celebrating Valentine’s Day, it’s time to redefine the day. Sure, it’s a day to celebrate love, but love isn’t just meant for couples - it’s for every one of us! Love isn’t shared just on a specific day in the year, but every moment of every day.

Valentine’s Day “can” be an illusion. For some, they feel pressured to “perform” and buy gifts, even though their relationship may be far removed from being romantic or even happy. Wouldn’t it be better not to play into a commercialized holiday and have genuine love in your life every day, whether single or not?

If you are single and getting the pangs of loneliness and feeling like a loser as Valentine’s Day approaches, plan ahead. Send flowers to yourself or invite single friends over for an evening of fun. Gather with those you love and those you already have a relationship with, instead of focusing on the relationship you don’t have. Aren’t true friends and family the ones who stand beside you all year long anyway?

If nothing seems to alleviate your pangs, this is a good time to think about the type of relationship you want and what is holding you back from creating it. Assess past relationships and why they ended and also what is presently putting a road block between you and a relationship, if that’s what you want. Become the person you would want to be in a relationship with.

If you are single and choose to be that way, don’t let Valentine’s Day become a bump in the road, but a day to reaffirm your choice and count the blessings in your life.

Valentine’s Day is one day out of a year. It’s what you make it, nothing less and nothing more.

Kathy wrote this on February 7th, 2008 and filed it under Single Life |