He does not like children.

You’ve met someone and he’s everything you ever wanted in a man other than his dislike for children. You have young children and his idea of raising someone smaller than himself is in the form of a dog. Should you continue dating him?

A lot depends on how far you want to go with this relationship. If you are thinking in serious terms, it’s better to cut your losses now instead of being heart-broken later on, if he’s adamant about his feelings toward children. He’s unlikely to change, but this also depends on his reasons.

A lot depends on “why” he doesn’t like children. If he simply feels awkward around them, it’s possible with gained confidence, he could see how wonderful they are. If he doesn’t like the idea of being responsible for someone other than himself, he may never feel differently. He may even be the type that never learned to share his toys and now doesn’t know how to share his life other than what benefits him.

There are some legitimate reasons people don’t want children of their own or to raise someone else’s children. But, when you have children and are involving yourself with someone who doesn’t want any or doesn’t like them, you have to seriously consider what this will do to your relationship, if one develops. If he’s firm on the issue, chances are this will be a deal breaker later on.

First and foremost, your children’s well-being needs to be kept in mind. You shouldn’t expose your children to someone who feels they should be placed in a zoo and fed through the bars. If you are thinking long-term, you have to be with someone who accepts the full package, you and your children. Don’t blind yourself to the reality of someone who may never accept your children. You deserve more and so does your children!

Kathy wrote this on February 12th, 2008 and filed it under Dating, Single Life |