The idea of a blind date often leaves some cringing. But, it has a lot to do with the mindset. We hope the person will be an ideal match, but often they don’t meet our expectations. This causes some people to turn down any more blind dates that are offered.

By saying yes to more blind dates, your chances are broadened to meet someone who is ideal for you. This also builds your reputation for being friendly and open to new experiences and people who know this, will tend to set you up even more. If they see you as too picky, they’ll soon forget your name when they know of someone who is available.

Drop the expectations. Learn to enjoy the experience for what it is and don’t build up an expectation before you even meet someone. Not everyone will be for us and we won’t be for everyone, but it’s possible to enjoy time shared with someone new.

Even if your blind date doesn’t come close to your ideal…remember, blind dates are people, too. Treat them as you want to be treated. Don’t be rude because they are an inch shorter, have jiggly hips or have a bald spot you didn’t expect. Being rude shows more about you than it does your date. A blind date isn’t a marriage proposal. It’s an opportunity to share time with someone new and vary your social life. When expectations are dropped, you might find yourself being able to enjoy light-hearted fun without feeling so pressured.

On the flip side, if your date makes your safety feel compromised or makes you feel uncomfortable, don’t feel obligated to stay. Otherwise, have fun and enjoy the experience… for what it is!

Kathy wrote this on March 19th, 2008 and filed it under Dating, Single Life |