In today’s society, the institution of marriage just doesn’t hold the same weight that it used to. With almost half of all marriages ending in divorce, most people really don’t view marriage as a lifetime commitment anymore. Most couple go into marriage with the attitude of “Let’s try it out and hope it works.” That is why when someone is married 20 years it’s a very big deal in today’s society. Most marriages don’t make 5 years.
Many girls around the 21 to 25 year old range are beginning to think of the future and if they see someone that is successful, good looking, and charming, they will pursue them. Unfortunately for some, marriage doesn’t matter. They figure that they can win the guy away from their partner. Chances are that the person that you’re discussing has a history of breaking up relationships or of having affairs.
As to your other question of why she would want to meet you, it could be a couple of reasons. It could be to size you up or it could be to try to get in his good graces by trying to appear to get along with your whole family. Realize one thing if she is truly trying to get together with your husband, she does not care about you at all.
My suggestion would be to talk to your husband and find out why she is around him so much. Is she a co-worker? What is her relationship to your husband? Ask him to separate himself from her if he can and tell her the reasons why. Be honest. If worse comes to worse, confront her and let her know your watching her.
It is your marriage, not hers. Take up for yourself and your husband. Hopefully this is a case of mistaken intentions or a misunderstanding, but if it isn’t, do what you can to defend what’s yours.