I know that you are all probably looking for that special someone to fulfill your life, your dreams and to have a white picket fence with. However, I know there are more of you that are thinking that it’s harder to do this than ever before.

If you are looking for love, it’s time to look at the changes that are happening with couples. Dating and couples today is something completely different than it ever has been before. It’s time to pick up the change.

Let’s begin with a crash course in dating world history. When someone was ‘courting’ someone in the olden times, it wasn’t just for a happily ever after. It was because it was a necessity. Think about it - women haven’t been able to work for years. If they didn’t get married, they would stay at home and help out (and you know how much we would all love that). If you wanted to have a family name, have someone carry what you established and wanted to be cared for, you got married.

One of the reasons why divorce rates are so high is because marriage isn’t happening out of necessity. It’s happening out of a love that dies off in a few years. Since there is no need to stay in bondage, it’s easier to leave. It may happen in the form of finances or in the form of lusting after another person, but if you aren’t really destined to be together, it’s easier to part.

Marriage no longer means food on the table and your destined life. Face it - women have become more independent in the last 50 years than they have been since the Amazonian women. The tables and the times are turning.

So, what does this mean for the future? Sometimes I wonder if marriage will even exist. It might have been a cultural phenomena that no longer needs to dictate our lives. If marriage, or coupling, (as I like to call it), does continue, it’s probably going to be for completely different reasons, like someone that you work with as a partner. If you are thinking that you still want to find that someone, you’d better know why.

And, if you know that marriage is just as much as a game as being single, than here’s to living it up! It’s the new way of life. Congratulate yourself for being independent and not having to “need” a man or woman in your life in order to make you feel whole. It’s great that now, we can feel whole even when we are by ourselves.

Brooke Hart wrote this on April 19th, 2008 and filed it under Single Life |