OK, we all know how depressing the single life can be…but I don’t think it’s quite as bad as the rest of the world wants us to believe. Everywhere we look we are constantly reminded of being single. The internet dating sites, the singles groups, the club scene, your best friend’s brother who wants to hook you up with one of his friends…..they are all focused on one thing…finding a mate. And why not? That’s what we all want, right? To meet the man/woman of our dreams?

Here’s the problem. We spend so much time searching that inbetween all the activies we fill our day with we are left with a giant void of inadequacy. I haven’t found someone so something must be wrong with me. I think the only thing wrong is that we’re focusing on the wrong thing. We should be enjoying life, not searching for Mr Right. Fill up your time with things you enjoy. Take a yoga class, go to park, join a book club. Do all the things you’ve ever wanted to do, and do it now. Do it before you get married and don’t have time anymore. Once you’re devoting your attention to your soulmate you won’t have as much time too devote it on your self. Focus your attention on living life and having fun. And who knows, maybe when you stop stressing and start enjoying life, Mr Right will show up where you least expect him…

Tracy Ray wrote this on April 19th, 2008 and filed it under Places to Meet Singles, Single Life |