Men! Ya gotta love them. Of course, I get a bit confused about what they really want. Listening to my male friends makes it all the more confusing.

One is in his early fifties and any female older than 40 is too old for him.  Put a twenty year old in front of him with tattoos and a hot body and he’d be drooling. What comes out of her mouth would be irrelevant. Just as long as the woman is pretty to look at.

Another friend…late forties. Size matters! At least to him.  A woman with 5 extra pounds turns him off quickly. The fact that he is overweight, balding and lacking in conversational skills is overlooked from his own view.

Enter Mr. Cares-a-lot-about-money. He has his own money, but is adamant about a woman having her own. I can understand that to a point (gold diggers aren’t a good thing) but his requirement is that she be a working woman with her own paycheck, even if they got married and even if they have children.

Let’s not forget the guy who has never had a place of his own, but always dates a woman with her own place. He dates her. He moves in and is unhappy with every relationship. He complains, but does nothing to change his pattern. He hangs in there though, because he prefers settling, instead of moving out on his own and away from his parents where he returns to between each relationship.

Oddly, each man I have mentioned says they are lonely. They would love to have a “good” woman and someone they could build a lifetime relationship with. I have to question…would they find what they are seeking if they looked for the “who” more so than the “what”? How significant is age, 5 extra pounds, money or other rather trivial aspects of a person, if you truly want a woman of “substance”?

Kathy wrote this on April 22nd, 2008 and filed it under Dating |