All too often the single life and those within it tend to focus on the negative aspects rather than on the things that make it great. Being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely. In fact, my single years were some of the best years of my life. Why? Because it was all about me.
So many people bounce from relationship to relationship right out of high school. We’ve all done it or seen it in our own lives. The person who is never single, always dating and looking for that one. But really, it has to start with you. When you never have a moment alone or a thought to yourself, how do you know who you are?
Get to know you. Really. The you that dreams beyond a man or woman. Discover the passions that lie inside you. Art, music or whatever draws you and entrances you. These are the things that make you. They are also things that get very neglected when always on the hunt for that perfect mate. The fact is, how can you be the perfect mate to someone else when you cannot even be whole on your own?
Take a time out when a relationship ends before heading into another. At least 2 to 3 months. Evaluate what you have learned and how you’ve grown. Every phase in life should teach us something about ourselves. Pay attention to the little things as well. It’s so easy to lose them along the way when you’re caught up in one drama after another.
When you get in touch with yourself and really know your beliefs, wants and needs you can identify the go nowhere relationships and avoid them from the start. There is never a good enough reason to settle. Be true to yourself by getting in touch with the real you. It’s so easy to lose sight of that when caught up in yet another fling or relationship better off avoided.