Do you find yourself disappointed, angry or even falling into the self-pity mode after each date? Maybe you set yourself up for disappointment by always expecting the worst. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Why would anyone set themselves up for disappointment? Often it’s a protective mechanism out of fear of not wanting to be hurt. It often comes from a past experience which caused extreme pain. No one wants to go through that time and time again, but in order for anything to change, you have to make changes. You can’t keep expecting the worst and finding fault with everyone you meet.

If you have fears, you need to deal with them. You have to change your mindset and open yourself up and see each new person as an individual and not someone who is going to do the same to you, as someone from the past, has.

You have to break the pattern. You have to take chances and open yourself up little by little until you don’t see each opportunity as a failure, but a new learning experience. Being negative does not make you happy, nor will sabotaging opportunity give the results you desire. You’ll be even further from reaching your dreams with a negative attitude.

Ask yourself…which will get you closer to having your desires fulfilled - continuing to be negative and sabotaging every opportunity that comes to your way or being positive about what you want and taking the chances to get what you want? If we are continuously negative, we remain stagnant. If we take chances with a positive attitude, we have a better chance of moving toward what we really want.

Kathy wrote this on May 18th, 2008 and filed it under Dating, Single Life |