You may have recently ended a relationship or maybe haven’t gotten over your last relationship, even if some time has passed. It’s wise not to rush into another relationship until you have healed and feel prepared to go into another relationship for the right reasons.

Even though you don’t want a relationship, this doesn’t mean you can’t socialize. There are ways to prevent getting too close and involved with someone you aren’t ready for and still have a social life.

Suggestions:

*  go out in groups. This allows you to have fun and interact, but not get too close to any one person.

*  keep conversations simple. Don’t talk about your deepest secrets or anything on a too personal level.

*  do something that involves activity such as sports with a group. This puts up a bit of a barrier.

*  be friendly, but not so friendly that you give off vibes that you are available for something more than friendship

*  have your boundaries set firmly - don’t allow yourself to go further than the boundaries you have set for yourself at this particular time of your life

*  be honest if anyone asks you for a date. Simply say that you aren’t dating at this time and leave them with a genuine thank you for asking.

The most important thing is to set boundaries for yourself that you feel comfortable with during this period of your life and stick to them. Don’t venture into territory you aren’t ready for. Take time to heal. Take time to think about what you want in the future and when you are ready for a healthy relationship, you can let that be known.

Kathy wrote this on May 29th, 2008 and filed it under Single Life |