Have you ever been around someone who showed interest in you, but you weren’t sure just how deep that interest went? One day you feel like they are trying to tell you something and the next day you just feel like a buddy. Maybe you are misinterpreting their friendliness.

Look at the clues! Is the person friendly with everyone in the same way they are friendly with you? If so, it’s very possible they are simply a generally friendly person. I’ve known many who have gotten emotionally attached to a someone who is generally friendly and neglected to observe how they are with everyone else. They took the friendliness very personally and turned it into something that wasn’t there. Needless to say, they were disappointed.

Sometimes friendliness can mean more than is on the surface. But, you need to look at reality. If you ask someone, who has been friendly to you, out on a date and get a no, the interest beyond friendship probably isn’t there. They probably like you, admire you and enjoy being around you, but for whatever reason they don’t want to take it further.

Observing a person’s behavior, not only around you, but around others can clue you in to a lot. It can also save you some heartache.

Kathy wrote this on May 31st, 2008 and filed it under Dating, Single Life |