After a break-up, you often have the temptation to be friends. This may be because you still want to cling to the relationship and haven’t accepted that it’s over. Or, it may be because you were best of friends while in the relationship and you don’t want to lose that aspect.

The decision of whether to remain friends is a personal choice, but it may or may not be in your best interest. In my opinion, it depends a lot on how the relationship ended.

If you experienced a brutal break-up where the other person showed no respect and hurt you deeply, you need to ask yourself why you would want to remain friends with this person. If someone has treated you like their worst enemy, it doesn’t make sense to be friends.

We can forgive those who have hurt us and done us wrong, but we don’t have to do it up close and personal and remain friends.

Think carefully about your reasons for wanting to remain friends. Do your reasons make sense? Are they in your best interest or are you trying to cling to the relationship that no longer exists?

Kathy wrote this on June 18th, 2008 and filed it under Brutal Breakups, Dating |