Is there such a thing as being too available when dating? There is when you put your own life on hold to the extreme to make sure you are available at all times for someone else. We might even call this desperation.

It’s great to be excited about meeting someone new that you click with. It’s also great to think this might turn into a good relationship. But, before a relationship even gets started, you can easily push someone away by being too clingy and too available.

It isn’t about playing games and becoming mysteriously absent for a period of time, but about having a life of your own and not altering your routine to the extreme in order to accommodate someone you aren’t even sure you will be involved with for long.

Being too available can be scary to some. They might think are you way too serious about them in an inappropriate time frame. They may envision you saying “I do” before your 3rd date.

Remember, actions speak volumes and if your actions are saying the other person is your whole world early on, they might feel very intimidated. They might not be in the same place as you are. They might want to take things much slower, but if you scare them off before they get to know you well, the chance is lost.

Take things slow. Retain your own life and routine. Express your liking of someone, but don’t go overboard too early on, by being available to the extreme.

Kathy wrote this on June 19th, 2008 and filed it under Dating |