You are in a committed relationship.  You have promised to be faithful to one another.  In a truly committed relationship – you are putting trust, honesty and fidelity on the line – your belief in each other is implicit.

Some men are not emotional beings like women. I have heard some men say - “If you can’t get what you want at home,  you have every right to look for it outside the relationship.”  I find this statement abhorrent, but why wouldn’t I?   I am a woman.

Why do men feel they have the right to be sexually unfaithful to their partner? Why don’t they work on a solution within the relationship that brings them closer to their partner instead of going outside the relationship?

There are also women who have affairs outside their “committed” relationship, as do men. Where does this breakdown come from and why does it seem to be on the increase?

Could it be because a man does not relate to his partner on an emotional level and thus fails to meet his partner’s emotional needs?  It has been said – “a woman needs to feel emotionally needed and fulfilled,  before she is able to give to her partner sexually.”

There is a huge breakdown somewhere – that is quite obvious.  The divorce statistics prove that.  Surely, every couple who end up married intend to be married to their partner for the rest of their lives.

Have you ever wondered what dynamics are in force to produce a divorce rate of nearly 50%? or more? I am sure each party in a relationship has faults and contributes to the breakdown.  But, the question is…could cheating on your partner have been prevented?  Were there other alternatives  open to you like relationship counseling or effective communication?

Why is there infidelity?  Why are people no longer truly committed to a marriage?  Are divorces too easy to get?  Why does nobody try to make their relationship work any more?   Instead of just leaving it saying “it was a  dysfunctional relationship.”   What happened to trying to address the dysfunction?  Or is it easier just to move onto the next dysfunctional relationship.  Where does it stop?!

Kathy wrote this on June 20th, 2008 and filed it under Brutal Breakups |