i was quite annoyed with my cousin who seems to become a bit of a drama queen since they’ve broken up. sometimes too i pity for being so attached with her boyfriend of almost 6 years. we had a very different teenage life so i think we got different views on love and relationship as adults.

while i was a late bloomer-one who never had interest in guys during my high school and college years, my cousin had quiet a number of boyfriends even in high school, when she met brian in her freshemen year in college, they soon became a couple and stayed on until recently. i think they were both very young, spoiled and immature to have a growing relationship. as i’ve observed, they fight like kids, and swear at each other frequently. a kind of relationship that’s unhealthy. my cousin also did not experience having guy friends around, or going out with a bunch of friends. she doesnt hang out with her bf’s friend and vice versa. their breakup really affected my cousin, not emotionally but i think her lost was something of a frequent companion rather than a partner. in their years together, their relationship a shackling one. not allowing each other to grow and mature with each other but rather a relationship that tries to control one. now with their break up, my cousin is always on the look out for someone to fill-in the space that her ex-bf once occupied. yet i always suggest to her that she should try to enjoy the things she missed out first because of her last relationship before she thinks of entering a new one.

my younger years may not have been filled with colorful love stories yet i had a bunch of friends both girls and guys that i always hang out with. with a group of very protective male buddies, i haven’t really thought of losing out coz i don’t have a bf. I felt really lucky to have them then and still i have them now. though i have a baby now, and even if my son doesnt have a father to call, i know these guys will always be there for us. and even if i am a single mom, i can do things that singles do-enjoy life, do the things i love.. without needing anyone’s permission and without anyone controlling or dictating on my actions.

cotton yuson wrote this on July 14th, 2008 and filed it under Single Life |