I know it’s hard for an individual to let go of a recent relationship, especially if he or she has devoted almost all of his or her time and feelings to another person and the relationship. It’s painful for something to end that you’ve given so much of yourself to.
At a certain point, after the pain of the break-up is beginning to subside, we have to accept the break-up. We have to learn from it and be thankful for the experience and lessons that will help us in the future.
The question now is, what can you do on your end to realize this break up will lead to something else positive and it is not as despairing as it ‘feels’? First you need to accept that your break up ended for a reason. If the relationship had all the elements it needed to keep thriving, it wouldn’t have ended. You may have done your very best in the relationship, but maybe your partner didn’t hold up their end. You can’t force someone else to give what they aren’t willing to give. Eventually, the ties will be broken.
Allow your emotions to heal before getting into another relationship. Give yourself time to learn from the relationship and the break-up and more about yourself. Yet, don’t forget to take care of yourself and enjoy life. Your life isn’t over because the relationship is over.
Break-ups are painful whether you were in a short-term or long-term relationship. Acceptance of the break-up is one of the first steps to healing.
“You can’t force someone else to give what they aren’t willing to give.” This is difficult advice to swallow, because you are in a constant battle of second-guessing yourself that they didn’t “give” what you wanted because of you. In other words, I think it’s all my fault that he didn’t want me.