One would consider dating to actually be the meeting stage – when you are getting to know someone new. But, some people expect too much, too soon and already have a relationship in mind.
When you date someone it doesn’t mean you love that person already. Some people convince themselves they love someone on the first date or have a distorted vision of what will transpire after that first date. They totally overlook the value of the ‘getting to know you’ stage. Some people are searching for someone to fill a need and move way too fast in order to latch onto another person.
Your first date should never get intimate because your definite goal here is to know more about the person you are dating. Your eyes should be wide open to any signs as to why this person would or wouldn’t be good to continue dating. Don’ t allow intimacy to blur your vision and emotions.
The more intimate you are, the less you will be able to know what the person’s true intentions are. Going slow, being patient and using logic before emotion, will help you get closer to a healthy and lasting relationship. This is why the ‘getting to know you’ stage has great value.