the single life

I was in a bar with a male friend a while back. I was sharing about the few the cute guys that I would have liked to have a conversation with. I added that I was finding it difficult to be with someone. He replied:” I know what your problem is Caroline; you want to be with someone too much”
His comment was hurtful to me. That is a clear demonstration that men are action oriented: to him, he was solving my problem. That was his way of being supportive and helpful even if I didn’t agree with him
I strongly wanted to shout at him: “I am working about 50 hours per week. I dedicated some of my leftover time to training. I have my social life and my relatives. Can I focus at least 3 hours per week on flirting without looking desperate?!”
I feel that I am entitled to that.
I am sure that you get comments like that once in while. Some are even worse then other ones.
It seems to me that as soon as I have a man in my life, I am perceived as having fewer faults then when I am single. Suddenly, people’s opinions are shifting to “there is nothing wrong with me”.
In fact, I am the same person, with the same qualities and faults, single, or in a relationship. Is that familiar to you?
Living single has its challenges. This article is suggesting having a happy living single life as a woman
Living single as a woman is a choice. You have to feel like this is your choice. You don’t have to feel like a victim of it. It’s related to your level of self esteem.
If you don’t have a solid accurate, high opinion of yourself, you will be easily influenced by the behaviors and comments of your friends, co-workers and family members.
Most of the time, they mean good. However some insensitive comments can be destructive. The damages can be serious.