It’s been a long day work when one of my close friends asked me to join them for a little drink. Since its Friday night, I gave way to the invitation. “I will try to unwind and enjoy that simple means of relaxation” I told myself.
The night is full of laugher in the beginning because of the stories, jokes and happy experiences being discussed during the night out. However, the light discussion became heavy upon the arrival of their new lady friend which turned to be a single mother. She had been into two failed relationship and now a separated lady with two kids under her custody. After drinking 3-4 bottles of beer, she started talking about her past relationship, reasons of their break up and how he looks and feel now towards man that I consider rude and unfair. She generalized that all man are just after sex and irresponsible. She blamed her previous partner and says (with bitterness I think) the she now chooses to remain “Single!”
Though I don’t agree on what she said, I just tried to understand her while trying to keep my distance for she might throw up (luckily she didn’t). After a long discussion, I found out that one of the causes of her failed marriage/relationship is due to absence/lack of communication. Both of them hide their feelings and didn’t communicate clearly what they want or what they must do to have a healthy emotional, physical and sexual relationship. This thing made the two guys leave her and look for another girl who will satisfy his needs. Another cause of the failed relationship is the early marriage. She got pregnant and married him at the age of seventeen.
What keep me wondering is this, she had been into two relationship and presently supporting her two son, but how come she haven’t learned her lessons in life. She is blaming and cursing all man and yet ruining the clean night out her new found friend is enjoying. She keeps pronouncing that she chooses to be single yet her words and actions shows bitterness. I believe she is numerically mature (because of age) but emotionally and mentally immature. Why judge all men wherein she is partly to blame for a failed relationship.
I dare not to further analyze things for it’s just a waste of time. Honestly, I’ve also learned a lesson that night. Lessons on how you avoid failed relationship? Partly yes, but what I learned most is about single lady regardless if separated or not…a lesson saying that “Sometimes good night can be ruined by a single lady!”