I recently decided that I had been single for long enough and I would join the thousands of other people who used online dating services. I was lucky enough to decide to use this service on a day that was free, meaning I could correspond with other members for the whole weekend without having to pay.
I jumped on this and signed up and started messaging all the people who were selected as being compatible matches for me. There was one guy who I seemed to hit it off with right away. We exchanged about 5 messages that evening, learning everything about each other. He was a teacher who loved books, God, sports, dogs, similar music. I was really starting to feel like this service actually had something to it.
And then we decided to exchange photo’s. I don’t consider myself superficial or someone who cares that much about looks but as soon as I saw this guy’s photo, I panicked. I felt so bad, he wasn’t attractive and I was no longer interested at all. I promptly deleted the email and deleted the account and haven’t been back. I still think about that experience everytime I think about online dating again; I mean we all worry about being rejected but it is almost as hard to be the one doing the rejecting.
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ROFL. That’s hilarious. I have a friend who traveled all the way from Miami to New York to meet who she thought was an attractive man judging by the pictures. What the pictures didn’t show was that the other half of his face was like half way burnt off. ROFL
why feel bad, if the girl is not attractive- Im loosing any interest in her- that’s how its working- i understand- maybe he or she is the great person- but….if we are not attracted
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The lesson you should have learned is to always post your picture and e-mail only people who already have photos posted. I always get an intuitive feel from the photo whether I might like someone in person. And of course complete ugliness in my eyes rules out further response. Even when you like the pictures and enjoy the e-mails, there can be disappointment when you meet the person and just don’t hit it off even though you thought you would. I have used the internet twice to meet women (I wrote about my first adventure in the book Internet Safari, Finding Love Online at 65) and both times it took me four months of meeting people before I found the right person for me. Success can happen but it calls for patience and more than one weekend of using the internet dating service. I am now 66 and I found love twice on the internet. It can be done.
Your experience demonstrates several points but probably the most important lesson is that it’s never a good idea to reveal personal contact information until you’re as sure that you can be that you’ll want to speak to someone or meet up.
Dating sites encourage members to stick to using the contact methods build into the site for this very reason.
Agreed totally with you all.