It amazes me the number of people who don’t think ahead about the issues that would negatively impact a relationship. For example, I have a friend who started seeing a woman who lives about an hour and a half away from him. He was perfectly willing to drive the distance. She was perfectly willing to see him….until.
This woman decided after a few months of dating that the relationship would never go any where because of the distance. The distance was there before the relationship started. My friend was willing to deal with the distance. My friend is emotionally involved and this woman is willing to let the relationship go because of the distance. Why didn’t she think of that before getting involved to start with? Or is she using this as an excuse not to continue the relationship because she has an underlying reason? It could be either.
It’s important to think ahead about what you want in a partner and in a relationship. It’s equally important to think about what you are willing to sacrifice and the sacrifices you are not willing to make before entering a relationship. It’s only fair to the other person and their emotions. Be honest with yourself and honest with whomever you meet.