Grace Under Fire – Learning to Keep the Faith after a Break-up

It’s funny how life turns out differently from what you expected or planned. It’s different for everybody obviously but we all share these I-can’t-believe-this –just-happened-to-me moments. Life really knows how to kick you in the butt, it’s like the universe’s way of telling you that something in your life is not good for you but since you can’t see it then I’ll just give you this harsh lesson. Most of the time you still don’t see what lesson should be learned, so life gives you more harsh lessons in forms of heartaches, death, illness, loss, disappointments, etc…and I think it will keep on doing that until you get it. Cruel I know but I think we just have to accept that yes, life is wonderful but it can be really brutal. As human beings it takes awhile to be enlightened, most probably we will just think that our life sucks, we think we’re so unlucky, we would question God and ask why bad things happen to us, and of course we will always blame our miseries on other people. It will take awhile but eventually we will learn to see the big picture. It is human nature to feel bad or depressed when life isn’t working out the way we planned but once we free our whole being and see that the universe is sending you a message then maybe that’s the time when we will start living a new life, a better life.
Realizing that what you want isn’t always what you will get is a painful thing, especially when it comes to love, people just won’t accept why they can’t be with the person they love. I mean everyone knows it’s not all fairy tale-happy ending-my life is so great kind of relationship all the time. Most of the time love involves a lot of pain and heartache, they say you always hurt the one you love right? But should that be true? Should love really have to hurt so much? In cyber world we always let everyone know what our status is, people love declaring to all of their friends and family if they are In a Relationship, Single, Dating or It’s Complicated. I think what status most people can relate to is It’s Complicated because love IS complicated. There are always issues in relationships no matter who you are, what country you are from, from what race you are, rich or poor, there’s always something that makes the relationship complicated.
But what I’ve realized is, you will always repeat every mistake you’ve made, you will always end up with the wrong person or always make the wrong decision for yourself and for others unless you see what lesson life is teaching you. We shouldn’t say “I wish I’ve never met him/her”, “I wish I didn’t take that job”, etc…what we should say is what is the lesson I should learn from this person who was once a part of my life? Enlightenment may not come quickly it may take awhile actually but if you open your heart, mind, and soul you’ll eventually get there. So it’s okay to cry, get depressed, have doubts, and be confused about love and life in general. You can cry all you want, lock the door, pull down the blinds, and don’t take any calls for a few days but always think of the bigger picture because it will help you get out of the gutter a lot sooner. Be grateful for everything good that you have in your life, be grateful for the people who love and care about you and think that despite all the pain and heartache you are experiencing you are still blessed than most people. I know it sounds so cliché’ but it is true, stay positive and send out good karma. Life will be much better for you and everyone around you because of all the positive energy you will be sending out. And you’ll never know, you might inspire someone who is going through the same thing and they’ll be inspired by your great outlook in life. Easier said than done I know but the point is you are the one who will decide which journey you will take in life, it’s always better to follow the path to enlightenment rather than spiral down into a sea of darkness. Being happy and content is way better than being sad and depressed everyone knows that!
This is the only way I know how to get myself out of this quicksand of depression that I always find myself in, I always think that maybe something better is out there for me life is just waiting for me to be ready to accept the blessings that are coming my way. Believe me it takes a long time for me to get there but the point is I do get there. I try to forgive and learn, to have no ill will towards people who have hurt me, it is a process, a long process but it is something I make sure I do after a bad experience. Being bitter and angry or seeking revenge towards others will slowly eat you up inside, these people will go on living their lives and you’re stuck in this dark place because you can’t bring yourself to let go. All these negative feelings will stay in your heart and in your soul for a long long time and it will manifest in your physical being as well. To everyone else you will be this hateful person with an ugly face, how horrible is that?!
Doesn’t everyone notice that whenever we go through something difficult in life that is the time when we sit and really ponder about what has become of our lives? Are we the person we dreamed of becoming when we were young? Did we achieve everything we wanted to do or we just gave up our life an own happiness for other people? It’s easy to forget about how we feel when the focus of your life are the people you love, as long as their happy we are happy. There’s no shame in that, it’s actually a wonderful thing when you make people happy but we should always leave even just a little bit for ourselves. Sometimes when you are left with nothing all you have is yourself and you’re going to have to pick yourself up and go on with your life with your head help up high.
All I know so far is we should live and love to the fullest, no regrets about anything. Take life as it is, good or bad. Learn to forgive people who hurt you, be grateful for family and friends who always have your back, and learn the lessons that every event in your life is teaching you. We all have a journey to make in our life, it’s not always perfect and that’s okay. I’m still trying to figure things out as I make this journey I mean do we really ever stop learning from life? After the dark storm there will always be a ray of light trying to push its way through the darkness, I’m still figuring out what lesson I should learn from the latest trial that I have been put through but I am already looking forward to what the new day would bring. Slowly the sadness is fading away and excitement for a new life is emerging, so what if life is complicated? As Forrest Gump’s Mom said, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” It’s how you carry yourself through these trials that really matter, we all should have grace under fire.