One of the hardest things to accomplish after a break up is to get back out there and get a life of your own. Of course you don’t want to spend time at the places you went with your ex. So now is the time to develop your own interests or renew interest in something that fell by the wayside while you were in LUUUUVVVVEEEEE.
Not only will finding new activities give you something to do besides mope, it will also put you in a position to meet new friends and possibly a new love interest.
*Some things you may want to consider are:
*Playing a sport
*Taking a class in something that interests you
*Joining a book club
*Joining a gym
*Volunteering
Or just get out in the world and find out what you enjoy doing alone, or with a group of people.
The best advice I ever got after a break up was ” So? Date yourself.” Okay, so it sounds silly but all those places I had hoped he would take me, I took myself to. I did things that I had always wanted to do, and you know what? It didn’t hurt a bit. I figured people would be staring at me and wondering why I was at the movies by myself, or at a restaurant alone, but it wasn’t like that at all. I exchanged pleasantries with strangers, I got invited to groups and committees, I learned to like being myself wherever I happened to be and no matter who I was with. This helped build my self confidence so that when the next relationship came along I was secure enough to keep my life my own while still sharing it with him.
Before anyone else can love you, you have to love yourself, before someone else can enjoy being around you, you have to be comfortable with yourself. So stop moping and GET A LIFE!!! all your own.