We've all been there. Someone asks us out, or hits on us, and we know that we aren't interested. But the question is, how do we turn them down without looking like a jerk? Here are some ways to make your exit. -Try to put them off by intentionally making yourself unattractive. Pretend you are drunk, then you have an excuse to run toward the bathroom or the exit. Pick your nose, or do something else disgusting when they are watching. Or, if you don't mind making a fool out of yourself, hit the dance floor and get down with your "bad" self. Bad being the operative word. Dance like an idiot, on purpose. -A few white lies never hurt anyone. Tell them you are taken, tell them you aren't into a relationship right now, tell them you're celibate...tell them anything that will get them out of your face. -If white lies don't work, it's time to be blunt. Get your message across however you need to. Be honest with them, don't lead them on by giving them a fake phone number, or giving them your real number and then dodging their calls and ...

Ok, you've done it this time. You went out with friends, and had a few too many. You managed to pour yourself into bed at some god-awful hour, and you've awakened with a raging hangover. How do you deal with it? Here are some tips. -Drink plenty of fruit juice and water. You are most likely dehydrated, which is a big part of why a hangover makes you feel so lousy. -Sleep it off. Call in to work, if you have to. Tell them you have the stomach flu, unless your co-workers were out with you last night, in which case, you are busted. -Take a shower, alternating between hot and cold. -Hair of the dog. Drink a Bloody Mary, or an Irish coffee. Your body will begin dealing with the new alcohol, and ignore the stuff that's already there. -Alka-Seltzer Morning Relief works wonders....I can vouch for that myself. -Get some exercise. It may seem counterintuitive when you can barely stand without barfing, but any activity that makes you sweat will aid in flushing the alcohol out of your system. The only sure way to avoid a hangover is to abstain from drinking. ...

The Shelter and MILK Night Club * Wednesdays/Saturdays * 1037 Broadway * Denver, CO 80203 * (303) 534-0222 *21+ * www.myspace.com/sheltersat Every Saturday @ The Milkbar is one of Denver's most infamous Goth clubs - Shelter/Milk. DJ MFR (Mike Rich) spins retro 80's in the milk bar while DJ's Fleisch and Ivo spin Dark Alternative, Ebm, Electroclash, and Industrial in the Jazz Bar. Both rooms, downstairs of Bar Standard. Strong and great drink specials with $2 wells until 11:00pm. It's free cover till 10:00 pm, and only $5 after. Has an outdoor smoking patio. Downstairs is a basement decor with exposed brick walls, vaulted ceilings, wood and tile floors with steel surfaces throughout the house. They have a state-of-the-art sound system that often projecs house/electronica/hip-hop upstairs, with rock and goth downstairs. Occasionally the upper smoking patio has DJ'ing too. Also has a roof-top patio (not often open) upstairs with great views of the Denver skyline. Goth Saturdays and Wednesdays are fabulous with some of the best music being spun in Colorado. Rating: 5 stars out of 5.

Danse Macabre * Thursdays * The Rocket Room * 230 Pueblo Avenue * Colorado Springs, Colorado * 719.447.4990 A great new goth/industrial/neo-folk night in the Springs area. Each thursday at the infamous Rocket Room. Free cover, 21+. Medium size venue with a very tiny dancefloor, but excellent drink prices and service. The mesmerizing compilations dj'ed by Blue Girl enchants your soul and puts you at peace. Its a new spin to the Goth/EBM/Industrial club selection in that Blue Girl specializes in new and old school Goth, Dark Wave, Industrial, Neo-Folk, and Pagan music. Its a perfect mixer and evening to start your weekend early or build up your energy for the weekend. My most favorite weekly night in the Springs. Rating: 5 stars out of 5.

So how often do you go out and engage yourself with experiencing how nightlife glimmers? If you are single and you tend to get extra from the money that you have earned or excess from the money that you saved you might as well pamper yourself with going into a night club. You'll be able to find various club bars available that would definitely ease your exhaustion after a day’s work. You may find it less stressful if you go to a night club together with your friends to spend the time drinking and having fun. There are bars that offer relaxation where luxurious wine and a cocktail bar are available; this would definitely be the best hangout place where you can bring your friends and some of your family members. Since you've probably brought your car, gather people with you and go bar hopping, enjoy it without thinking about work. Think of all those drinks that you can choose from and the people that you would meet, some may be even celebrities. So do yourself a favor and derive pleasure from nightlife you deserve to relieve yourself from stress after your day activities. Have fun!

Dancefloor at Sanctuary (Club 23 West) Sanctuary Saturday @ Club 23 West * http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2321964024 * 1st/3rd/5th Saturday every month @ Club 23 West: 23 West Cordova, Vancouver, British Columbia Ah, back in the day when I first moved to Vancouver, this was the only Goth/Industrial club I could find in Vancouver late as Y2K was taking place back when it was at the Purple Onion. This fabulous night was established in 1997 and is the longest-running night in Vancouver that's dedicated to the Goth/Industrial/Underground and alternative music culture. DJ Pandemonium who started the night is still keeping it alive and beating serving the best of alternative/synth/electro/new wave/80's/90's/rock/goth/industrial/ebm/ and synthpop. Now joined with DJ's R-Lex, Vortex, Contrasoma and periodic guests; its taken hold on Saturdays instead of Sundays in the infamous thriving ground of Sin City at its home in Club 23 West. Doors at 9 and the party lasts til 3 am. Free before 10, students free till 11, and two-for-one's with cab receipt all night. $6 cover after 10, $1 off if dressed to impress. I've been a fan of this night since early 2000 attending every year since then, when I lived in Vancouver it was a weekly ...

The Chapel Bar, Seattle The Chapel Bar1600 Melrose Avenue * Seattle, WA 98122 * P 206.447.4180 * F 206.447.9777 * info@chapelseattle.com * http://www.chapelseattle.com/ Off of Melrose in the edge of Capital Hill merging into downtown lies a old church nestled into a block with businesses and apartment buildings that has been converted to a exquisite martini bar. It was built in the 1920's as part of the Butterworth's Mortuary as a place to honor the physical world passing into the spiritual world. Its is off this theme that the bar still thrives - bringing together people to honor one another, but in a different way. Its both a bar and a restaurant, serving fine food, fine spirits, and merging in culture, arts, and music. The drinks while higher priced are fabulously delicious. I haven't tried the food but I've heard excellent things. This is a top-notch establishment. Rating: 5 stars out of 5.

Ruin Hollywoodhttp://www.myspace.com/ruinhollywood@ The Monte Cristo * 3100 Wilshire Blvd * Los Angeles CA 90010 Just East of Vermont/Wilshire * Entrance through back lot * 10:00pm-2:30am - 21+ (ID Required) * $8 Entry (and various discounts) Ruin broke in the 4th of July celebrations with DJ Xian and Darren Revell, and guest DJ Jason Farber in the main room, while late night out on the patio awe-strucken patrons were treated with fire breathing, swallowing, and spinning fun by Cherchez la Femme and Ted Shred. The music was fabulous and stunning while mixed with a genuine absinthe bar. Occurs every friday night at the Monte Cristo. Darkwave, Ethereal Danse Macabre, Tribal, and Medieval. Excellent musical blends. The ambience, the setting, the music, the lights, the patrons, victorian decor, the art ... all make this one of my favorite Goth clubs. Fantastic job Xian! A must visit. Rating 5 stars out of 5. Tribal fusion dancing firespinner at Ruin

Perversion Perversion HollywoodBoardners * 1652 Cherokee Ave, Hollywood, California * Thursdays * 2 Dance areas * Industrial, Goth, Alternative, and Bondage * 18+ * Full Bar * 10-2 It's been a few years since I've been to Perversion. They are now at a much better location - Boardners, the home to the infamous Bar Sinister and the new location suits Perversion so much better than many of the previous locations I attended. Packed wall to wall with Goths and those dressed in black, it was a madhouse meat market of the gothic array. The Bondage show is back if full spectrum with Sal from the Dungeon at Blue, an Absenthe lounge upstairs, live performances, sexy doms, and incredible dance music downstairs with Bractune and Amanda spinning the main room with industrial techno, dark tekno, and noise. Bruce spins out on the patio a nonconformist mix of Goth, Dark Wave, Alternative, and Indie. The downset to the night is how crowded it often is, at least the evening of 7/3/08 where it was packed and space was difficult to find or obtain on the dance floor to get your frustrations out. The bars as well were packed, and drinks often hard to ...

I was painfully reminded how aggravating an attention whore is when one came flying into my local dive bar last night. The bar I hang out at is the kind of place where everybody really does know everybody's name. Now, although we generally all know each other, there are occasions where someone new will pop in. Last night the new person interrupted everyone else’s good time while entertaining no one but herself. First off, as she walked in the door she was yelling. I don't recall what she was yelling. We all wrote her off as a drunk who was passing through. Unfortunately she didn't go anywhere. She sat down and made herself comfortable. Over the course of the next hour she decided to sing every song that came on the jukebox -- out of key and at the top of her lungs. She was so loud that the bartender turned the music up in an attempt to drown her out. Next she convinced one of the guys to play darts with her. Every single time she had a bad turn (which was just about every turn) she would stomp -- literally stomp ...