Being single can be either a liberating, or a lonely time. Taking personal responsibility is one extremely important reason. A woman can go out and have a fantastic time with friends, family, or even alone. This woman understands her limitations. She knows if she stays up too late, she could risk being late to work or performing poorly because she is fatigued. She knows if her limit on consuming alcohol. By keeping these ideas in mind, she is capable of driving home safely and at a decent hour. When a woman takes responsibility for her own actions, she maintains pride, dignity, and respect. The ability to respect herself and have a great respect from others. If she is a mother, she is being a good example for her children. If she is in a relationship, she is showing her mate respect as well. She can even be a good example for those around her. This gives her a good and decent reputation. She can walk away any time and feel confident because she is making good choices. These choices can also ensure her future to be decent. She will not be dealing with past qualms she had with people. She will have ...

Have you ever been to a “silent disco”? Did you ask yourself, once inside, why you have been to a silent disco? I know I did. I have yet to attend a more pointless themed night at any nightclub, and I have attended 80s night, “back to school” nights, beach discos and anything else you even care to make up on the spot. The idea behind this “silent disco” was that you enter and choose to either adorn headphones, into which the DJ’s set is piped, or to walk around, talking eerily as you would in a library, and promise not to disturb anyone. I was not there alone, and was in a state in which anything should have seemed funny, but this just seemed strange. And, indeed, the environment is in no way conducive to meeting anyone you may (or may not, more than likely in this case) be interested in. Steer clear.

Here I continue my series on nightclubs to go to in Belfast, with the Limelight. More of a venue than a nightclub it is known for its underground scene live rock gigs and its more alternative feel. With gay nights and club nights to suit more than one taste, however, it is one of the city’s must see venues for those under 25. Its best and most well-attended night is, at the moment, Tuesday, when they choose to open the doors to all three venues in the one complex to clubbers. Its a unique and yet quite genius set up they have there, in the fact that one venue is the alt-rock club, and one is the hardcore clubbers place, which are both split by a rather homely bar. I say this, but the one thing you will notice is that it is notorious for its student appeal. Not for those who want to meet anyone new with any maturity, give it a miss unless you want a loud club night or an alternative gig

Here I continue my series on nightclubs to go to in Belfast, with Laverys. One of Belfast oldest bars, Laverys is found just down from Shaftesbury Square south of, but around five minutes walk from, the city centre. On its three floors it hosts very different environments, with the public bars on the ground floor accepting all sorts and being an excellent venue for watching sports, and the pool floor having what is probably the most pool tables in any one venue in the city. Most importantly for here, though, are its regular club nights (at least three a week during the Autumn and Winter to coincide with the university academic year). Famous for hosting alternative nights for those more partial to a heavy metal sound on the dancefloor, it also hosts nights dedicated to the music of chosen decades. On a Saturday night, though, there are less students about and the top two floors are open with 3 separate musical sets available, one usually being an alternative live music gig for unsigned bands. This is a good place to meet new people at any time, just choose your club night wisely based on your musical ...

Here I continue my series on nightclubs to go to in Belfast, with Thompsons. Found right in the city centre, down a side street round the back of City Hall, you feel like you are going somewhere a little different. Unless you know it’s there, you probably wouldn’t discover it. Built in an abandoned warehouse you enter on the top floor and the dancefloor is found downstairs. With its dingyness disguised with overuse of the smoke machine it is not a bad place to go after closing in other clubs in south Belfast, as it stays open until after 3 am. Everyone, even students, always comment that the music is too loud, but one thing that the place must be celebrated for is the fact that it regularly holds nights in which unknown DJs new to the industry ply their trade. If you’re into House music, this is a place you will like, though, more importantly for this blog, it is certainly not a place conducive to meeting anyone, as you most certainly can’t hold a conversation with anyone.

When you are between the ages of 18 and 25 and looking for a place to meet new people, who indeed could be something more than just a new friend, it can sometimes be difficult to find the right place. Attitudes of those that go to certain places can be annoying, stagnant, aggressive, or just unattractive, to name a few traits of some nightclubs. I hope, in my continuing series, to help people within the demographic of 18 - 25 year olds ascertain early on, without having to stay too long in a place, whether it’s worth your time looking there. I want to address this post to students. I’m sure you’ve all been out, on both sides of the atlantic, and felt like either you can’t stand one place or you love another. Whatever your preferences, you are not going to find anything worthwhile other than drinking games in clubs designed to market themselves to students. In the UK in particular, where we have all developed an incredibly unhealthy attitude to alcohol (for numerous reasons I’m sure most won’t even consider which I won’t go into here), you need to look further than the dingy, ...

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We've all been there. Someone asks us out, or hits on us, and we know that we aren't interested. But the question is, how do we turn them down without looking like a jerk? Here are some ways to make your exit. -Try to put them off by intentionally making yourself unattractive. Pretend you are drunk, then you have an excuse to run toward the bathroom or the exit. Pick your nose, or do something else disgusting when they are watching. Or, if you don't mind making a fool out of yourself, hit the dance floor and get down with your "bad" self. Bad being the operative word. Dance like an idiot, on purpose. -A few white lies never hurt anyone. Tell them you are taken, tell them you aren't into a relationship right now, tell them you're celibate...tell them anything that will get them out of your face. -If white lies don't work, it's time to be blunt. Get your message across however you need to. Be honest with them, don't lead them on by giving them a fake phone number, or giving them your real number and then dodging their calls and ...

The Shelter and MILK Night Club * Wednesdays/Saturdays * 1037 Broadway * Denver, CO 80203 * (303) 534-0222 *21+ * www.myspace.com/sheltersat Every Saturday @ The Milkbar is one of Denver's most infamous Goth clubs - Shelter/Milk. DJ MFR (Mike Rich) spins retro 80's in the milk bar while DJ's Fleisch and Ivo spin Dark Alternative, Ebm, Electroclash, and Industrial in the Jazz Bar. Both rooms, downstairs of Bar Standard. Strong and great drink specials with $2 wells until 11:00pm. It's free cover till 10:00 pm, and only $5 after. Has an outdoor smoking patio. Downstairs is a basement decor with exposed brick walls, vaulted ceilings, wood and tile floors with steel surfaces throughout the house. They have a state-of-the-art sound system that often projecs house/electronica/hip-hop upstairs, with rock and goth downstairs. Occasionally the upper smoking patio has DJ'ing too. Also has a roof-top patio (not often open) upstairs with great views of the Denver skyline. Goth Saturdays and Wednesdays are fabulous with some of the best music being spun in Colorado. Rating: 5 stars out of 5.

Danse Macabre * Thursdays * The Rocket Room * 230 Pueblo Avenue * Colorado Springs, Colorado * 719.447.4990 A great new goth/industrial/neo-folk night in the Springs area. Each thursday at the infamous Rocket Room. Free cover, 21+. Medium size venue with a very tiny dancefloor, but excellent drink prices and service. The mesmerizing compilations dj'ed by Blue Girl enchants your soul and puts you at peace. Its a new spin to the Goth/EBM/Industrial club selection in that Blue Girl specializes in new and old school Goth, Dark Wave, Industrial, Neo-Folk, and Pagan music. Its a perfect mixer and evening to start your weekend early or build up your energy for the weekend. My most favorite weekly night in the Springs. Rating: 5 stars out of 5.