it is acceptable for some to really have negative emotions after breakups. this is especially true when they'd been cheated on or had given their all for that one special person. brutal breakups can really mess a person's life. depression, bitterness and sometimes anger can set it. some people have a hard time handling these negative feelings and they cannot move on or would not let others help them. alcohol, binge eating and even drugs are just some of the easy exits that people took when they are full of negativity after break ups. but there are a lot of others ways that can help you get hold of your anger and bitterness after break up. for one, competetive sports is one way to push out all that negative emotions off your mind and body. the emotional pain can be diminished when you push your physical body beyond your limits. you can learn to block the pain and set other goals. racing can give you that kind of pain which your body will crave and soon cover the negative feelings that you have. racing, running, rowing, biking are just some activities that you can take to keep your mind off ...

We have all heard the phrase 'forgive and forget'. That seems incredibly hard after a recent break-up, especially if your partner did you wrong - such as cheating or mistreating you. Yet, somewhere in the middle of forgiveness you will find the peace you need to move on. No one is so strong that they can forgive and forget in an instant. But, eventually you will be ready to move on and holding on to resentment only prevents you from moving on. After a break-up, you are left with deep pain and very awkward feelings. Part of unraveling this pain and the awkward feelings is being able to forgive. Forgiving isn't a matter of saying the other person was in the right. Forgiveness is about letting go of the resentment and anger that becomes very toxic to YOU! This is your life and holding onto resentment, anger and unforgiveness hurts you way more than the other person. Unforgiveness imprisons you and prevents you from enjoying life and moving on to something or someone new. God forgives us for our sins, for our human failures and weaknesses. This forgiveness helps us to find peace and move forward. It works much the same when we forgive ...

I know it's hard for an individual to let go of a recent relationship, especially if he or she has devoted almost all of his or her time and feelings to another person and the relationship. It's painful for something to end that you've given so much of yourself to. At a certain point, after the pain of the break-up is beginning to subside, we have to accept the break-up. We have to learn from it and be thankful for the experience and lessons that will help us in the future. The question now is, what can you do on your end to realize this break up will lead to something else positive and it is not as despairing as it 'feels'? First you need to accept that your break up ended for a reason. If the relationship had all the elements it needed to keep thriving, it wouldn't have ended. You may have done your very best in the relationship, but maybe your partner didn't hold up their end. You can't force someone else to give what they aren't willing to give. Eventually, the ties will be broken. Allow your emotions to heal before getting into another relationship. Give yourself time to ...

Are you becoming drained and depressed because of the break-up with your ex? Maybe your daily life feels miserable and you're in a rut that you don't know how to get out of. It's very normal to feel sad and depressed after a break-up. That goes with the territory and the time period can be different for each individual. But, if these feelings have been with you for an extended period of time, they may be an indication you need to make changes in your life. Valuable lessons can be learned from all experiences - even those from a break-up. Sometimes in the worst struggles we find our greatest strength. Break-ups hurt. The reality is, continuously drowning in depression and reliving the relationship and the break-up wastes so many precious moments of your life. Life is short and it's better to move on to a new chapter for your well-being. If you broke up there are reasons for the break-up. It may not be your fault and the relationship may have even been good. But, for whatever reason the relationship ended and why would you want to be back in a relationship with the potential to end again? Wouldn't it be better to ...

After a break-up, you often have the temptation to be friends. This may be because you still want to cling to the relationship and haven't accepted that it's over. Or, it may be because you were best of friends while in the relationship and you don't want to lose that aspect. The decision of whether to remain friends is a personal choice, but it may or may not be in your best interest. In my opinion, it depends a lot on how the relationship ended. If you experienced a brutal break-up where the other person showed no respect and hurt you deeply, you need to ask yourself why you would want to remain friends with this person. If someone has treated you like their worst enemy, it doesn't make sense to be friends. We can forgive those who have hurt us and done us wrong, but we don't have to do it up close and personal and remain friends. Think carefully about your reasons for wanting to remain friends. Do your reasons make sense? Are they in your best interest or are you trying to cling to the relationship that no longer exists?

I don't know who is familiar with "Sex and the City," but I would like to call attention to one episode. It's the one where Burger breaks up with Carrie on a post it note after a steamy night of sex. As you and I all know, that's not kosher, right? A brutal break - up that many of us have been through is the one with the guy who is the chicken. Sometimes it happens if you haven't been dating for a long time and the interest is just lost. I'm pretty sure that the guy with the cold feet is also the one that has the most one night stands and short term relationships. With those, the guy is still the chicken for not saying he's not interested, just disappearing and not having the respect to tell the other person "never mind." However, the intimacy isn't there on a certain level, so the cold feet - not as important. What's even worse is the men who are chickens after they have been with you for a long time. I know a few situations where the relationship gets serious, it's gone on ...