I have since put mind in to making new friends and going out and just enjoying me. I have read lots of self help books, one that helped me alot is the power of now! Once you realize that you cannot change what happened and if your holding on to any guilt or replaying things over and over again in your mind you will always be stuck where you are (hurting) Let it go! if there is something that you can do to change what happened then do it! if not accept it and move on, realize that you are you and you can only be you. Does it really matter why he left or ended the relationship? is any reason that he gives you really going to change how you feel? I can bet you that it won’t it will leave you feeling even more hurt or leave you with even more questions. Cut your losses and move on. It took me a very long time to realize this but the words are so true … Anyone who loves you or cares about you would never make you feel down or depressed would make you cry, would leave without a reason why and keep you confused. even if he did have those feelings for you once and then his feelings changed, there is a level of respect that one person shows another and he is not even showing you that! Pick urself up sister and be proud that he is not in your life anymore. Your mother is right that person is out there! but now is the time to learn the lessons you need to learn that is going to make you grow into the woman that is ready for that special man. Everything happens for a reason and in time yes time you will realize that this was actually a blessing in disguise. Keep yourself busy !! and move on with your life it really is the best revenge. One day he will realize his mistake and want to come back …. Will you be ready to say NO my life is so much better without you in it? Remember When life closes one door another door opens dont let the hurt stand in your way of seeing that door. Feel the fear and go through the door. Keep your chin up it gets easier I promise!