i used to plan my life that i’d marry when i reach 26, but i guess life has its own plans for me. i had a baby when i was 24 and now i’m 26 and really not in a hurry to settle into a married life. experience made me wary of commitments so i am now real careful in choosing a partner. i don’t think it is right to rush into relationships just because we’re nearing that dreaded 30’s. society’s thoughts on unmarried woman should not affect our decisions when it comes to issues that may risk our happiness or unhappiness. let’s not be reckless and let other’s dictate us with what we should do.

i used to plan my life that i’d marry when i reach 26, but i guess life has its own plans for me. i had a baby when i was 24 and now i’m 26 and really not in a hurry to settle into a married life. experience made me wary of commitments so i am now real careful in choosing a partner. i don’t think it is right to rush into relationships just because we’re nearing that dreaded 30’s. society’s thoughts on unmarried woman should not affect our decisions when it comes to issues that may risk our happiness or unhappiness. let’s not be reckless and let other’s dictate us with what we should do.

A plea for lovelorn female “ugly ducklings” to move to a remote Australian mining town to reverse a shortage of eligible women has landed the local mayor in hot water.

Mt Isa Mayor John Molony was refusing to apologize on Monday for angering local women with a suggestion that “with five blokes to every girl, may I suggest that beauty-disadvantaged women should proceed to Mount Isa,” in north-west Queensland state.

“Quite often you will see walking down the street a lass who is not so attractive with a wide smile on her face. Whether it is recollection of something previous or anticipation for the next evening, there is a degree of happiness,” Molony told the Townsville Bulletin newspaper last week.

Via Outback mayor seeks ugly duckling women | Oddly Enough | Reuters

I admire them for they are fully aware of positive and negative effect of being single. Though they plan to settle down if the right partner arrive, they can’t deny the fact that sometimes they ask themselves when. To lighten up things, I try to ask them to the reasons why they are still single or prefer to be single. They capitalize the following reasons:

1. They don’t have time to look for a partner and their priority is the career.
2. They are the one earning for the family who needs their support
3. They haven’t met the right partner
4. They are not in hurry to marry
5. They enjoy life being single

Though they have valid excuses, I want to believe that they are using this to justify their status of being single. Among the reasons they mentioned, I like the reason “they enjoy life being single!” When asked how they enjoy life being single, they immediately raise the following justification:

1. They can do everything they want like going to parties, drinking and gimmicks
2. They can wake-up any time they like and enjoy the silence of their room.
3. They don’t have in-laws to live with,
4. Lesser responsibility compared to married individuals
5.They are responsible for their own expenses
6. They can find time to look for the right partner
7. They can focus on their career.
8. They can save and build wealth
9. They can have male friends without dealing jealousy and suspicion.
10. And many more they said.

With what I heard from my single friends…sometimes I envy them. I now believe if there is a way to enjoy life, which is being single!

i still try to be friends with him though i limit conversations on neutral and ordinary topics. i don’t want him to think that im encouraging his flirtations. so yesterday we were talking, he’s been asking me why i don’t want to sleep with him.. the nerve! why in the world would i sleep with him a married man? then he started talking about his ex-gf. says he miss her so much. so this ex-gf is also married but is on a rocky situation and soon became separated with her irresponsible husband. he and that girl had their relationship for years without her wife knowing. says they tried to make a baby but they couldn’t. though i don’t know that girl personally i think that she’s quite crazy. she gave up on her marriage though maybe she really had reasons to, but to go on and agree to be a mistress and have a kid? i think its like picking up another stone to hit your head with. i couldn’t imagine being in the shoes of his wife. he even claimed that this ex-gf of him is is one great love, though he also love his wife. i really don’t understand why there are guys like him. the conversation gave me a huge headache.

maybe i’m just not like that girl. i have a very high regard for his wife so i never considered having a relationship with him. and maybe to other married men that would try to talk me into it. i am a woman too, and i know how much it would hurt knowing these things.

living space for singles should just enough, not crowding or not too huge that could make you feel alone. one advantage of having the place all by yourself, or with a fellow single woman is that you can decorate and fix the place however it pleases you. you don’t have to worry about the mess that some jerk would leave or create. so while we’re single, its advisable to create a haven, or a little nook for yourselves in your homes. fix it the way that would provide you with all the comfort stuffs and pour in a supply of your comfort food. books and other things that would keep you busy. also being single would give you the ticket to stay out late nights on fridays so better keep a comfy nook for your lazy weekends.

while we are single, we deserve great time and place to rest and enjoy our freedom. being available too soon should not be the trend, better think and have breathing space before deciding on another relationship.

despite the stigmata, and stereotyping for singles, we deserve to live happily and contentedly on our choices.

living space for singles should just enough, not crowding or not too huge that could make you feel alone. one advantage of having the place all by yourself, or with a fellow single woman is that you can decorate and fix the place however it pleases you. you don’t have to worry about the mess that some jerk would leave or create. so while we’re single, its advisable to create a haven, or a little nook for yourselves in your homes. fix it the way that would provide you with all the comfort stuffs and pour in a supply of your comfort food. books and other things that would keep you busy. also being single would give you the ticket to stay out late nights on fridays so better keep a comfy nook for your lazy weekends.

while we are single, we deserve great time and place to rest and enjoy our freedom. being available too soon should not be the trend, better think and have breathing space before deciding on another relationship.

despite the stigmata, and stereotyping for singles, we deserve to live happily and contentedly on our choices.

We only have our date’s physical description based on the information they sent us. Age, school or work,place they live and the clothes they wear upon meet up.The place is important because that’s the first way for you to see each other.Do you have an idea what’s the safe and best place? Majority, they usually meet in a restaurant and have lunch or dinner there. For low budget one, they meet in a coffee shop to feel the relax ambiance.Some couple prefers to meet in a park. Others want to include an activity in their meet up so, they choose sports center or at the mall to watch movies. Still, it’s depends on the couple which place they want.With all of these tips, are you now ready to meet up?

1. If possible, allocate a budget for the traveling category even if you have no plans to do so. By doing this, you avoid spending money on travel that is otherwise allotted for some other spending category. So as not to upset your budget, you can amortize over 12 months the annual budget you are willing to pay for a vacation.

2. Avoid package tours that have a lot of inclusions you can do without. Research on your potential destinations, buy a map of that place and study the lines of commute from one destination to another. And remember, when in Rome, do as the Romans do. So if the locals travel on foot, on a three-wheeled vehicle, or on some other weird vehicle, do so and pay for it cheaply. For food, eat where the locals eat, just do not forget to bring anti-diarrheal medicines. Just kidding.

3. If you already know your destination, avail of early bird discounts given by airlines, cruises, hotels and resorts. Consider also online reservations that offer extra discounts. Also, use reward points collected via credit cards which provide corresponding free miles for airlines, or free rooms for hotels.

4. For accommodations, think of local hotels or transient homes that are way more affordable than hotel chains. An added bonus is you can feel the local flavor by staying in these homes.

Other than that, who would want to keep it no-strings when the only thing missing is making it official? Many of us have experienced being hurt and heart-broken in the past. For me, this is also one of the reasons that makes me prefer a no-string set-up. The fear of being hurt again is still too great to risk believing that this time it might be better. Though at times, a guy is almost perfect, making him again too good to be true. What if it’s only superficial? Sooner you’d be hurt again. But really that is love all about. We can never blame a person for the way he/she choose her relationship mode or how she would cope up with the hurt and broken-heartedness he or she got. It their own way as we have our own in dealing with love and the consideration of it n a relationship.